Gender, Pronouns, Orientations, etc.

*Revised on May 2, 2015
*Revised on May 16, 2015
*Revised on May 30, 2015
*Revised on May 31, 2015
*Revised on June 3, 2015
*Revised on June 13, 2015
*Revised on June 16, 2015
I wanted to make a guide to some LGBTQA+ related topics that a lot of people don’t know too much about. Note that these are not complete lists; there are infinitely many types of genders and orientations, and ways to express them, because there are infinitely many ways a person can feel about these things. If I find more/better definitions, I will make sure to add or change them.

GENDER
Gender identity is how a person sees themself or how they present themselves in their mind; gender is not the same as assigned sex. Assigned sex is what you are biologically assigned as at birth, and, even though often correlates with gender, it does not always. Gender expression is the physically appearance of how one presents one’s gender. This can sometimes line up with stereotypes or assumptions based on that gender, but doesn’t have to. Here is a list of only some specific gender identities and related terms:

afab– a person who was assigned female at birth (also sometimes referred to as dfab [designated female at birth])
agender– a person who feels disconnected from any certain gender, or lacks gender
amab– a person who was assigned male at birth (also sometimes referred to as dmab [designated male at birth])
androgyne– a person who presents as both feminine and masculine, but not female or male
androgynous– a person whose gender expression is not strictly feminine or masculine
bigender– a person who feels that they are two or more genders
cisgender– a person whose gender directly correlates with their assigned sex
demiboy– a person who identifies as partially or mostly male, but not entirely OR someone who usually identifies as male, but not always
demigirl– a person who identifies as partially or mostly female, but not entirely OR someone who usually identifies as female, but not always
female to male (ftm/f2m)– a person who was assigned female at birth and transitioned to male
female to non-binary (ftnb or ftx/f2nb or f2x)– a person who was assigned female at birth a transitioned to non-binary
gender nonconforming– a person who does not conform to any specific gender stereotypes or expectations
genderfluid– a person who feels as if their gender switches between two or more genders (this can sometimes a switch in name or pronouns as well)
genderflux– a person who experiences changes in their gender intensity (or can be thought of as genderfluidity between agender and another gender identity) OR it can be used as a noun (e.g. “I experienced very intense genderflux today.”) or a verb (e.g. “I genderflux, meaning that the intensity in my gender identity changes.”) [1]
genderqueer– a person who feels that they are not (just/always) the gender that correlates with their assigned sex OR an umbrella term meaning someone who is not cisgendered
intersex– a person who was born neither entirely female nor entirely male (does not directly correlate with gender)
male to female (mtf/m2f)– a person who was assigned male at birth and transitioned to female
male to non-binary (mtnb or mtx/m2nb or m2x)– a person who was assigned male at birth and transitioned to non-binary
non-binary– a person who feels that they are not (just/always) the gender that correlates with their assigned sex OR an umbrella term meaning someone who is not cisgendered or transgendered (similar to genderqueer)
pangender– a person who feels a connection to every/all genders
polygender– a person who feels as if they are two or more genders, but not all genders
third gender– a person who sees themself as not being female or male
trans*– a person who identifies as transgender or non-binary (not cisgender)
transgender– a person who feels that their gender is opposite to their assigned sex
transsexual– a person who has hormonally (hormone replacement treatment) or physically (surgery) transitioned to the gender opposite from their assigned sex [2]
trigender– a person who identifies as three separate genders
two spirit– a term used Aboriginal or Native American people who have both feminine and masculine characteristics and are seen as a third gender [3]

Agender/Androgyne/Androgynous/Genderqueet/Non-Binary Pride Flag
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Bingender/Intersex Pride Flag
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Genderfluid Pride Flag
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Transgender/Transsexual Pride Flag
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Trigender Pride Flag
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If you are unsure of which gender a person identifies as, there is no shame in asking. That person will most likely appreciate that you asked, and would rather tell you than have you misgender them (call them/treat them like the wrong gender). However, if you learn that someone is non-binary or trans* in any way, be respectful of their privacy. It is totally okay to want to learn more, but there are certain questions that will make many trans* people uncomfortable, and they will most likely not want to answer you unless you are really close friends, and sometimes not even then. Some disrespectful questions that you should probably avoid are, “When are you getting surgery/where have you gotten surgery?” “Are you sure you’re not just gay?” “Am I still *insert sexuality here* if I am attracted to you?” and any questions about the person’s genitals, or any information about them/photos of them before they transitioned [4]. All of these questions are very disrespectful and will make most people uncomfortable, so please do not ask these types of questions.
Here is a video that further explains gender identity, gender expression, and gender roles.

PRONOUNS
Pronouns are generally gendered language that people use in second-person to speak about another person, and can change depending on someone’s gender. Pronouns do not have a specific gender that they correlate with; anyone of any gender can use any pronoun if it makes them feel comfortable. If you are unsure of which pronoun a person goes by, it’s completely okay to ask them.Here is a list of pronouns and a helpful chart on how to use some of them:

ae/aer/aers/aeself
ce/cir/cirs/cirself
e/em/eir/eirs/emself
ey/em/eir/eirs/emself
em/ems/emself

hi/hir/hirs/hirself
ip/ips/ipself
le/lem/lems/lemself
ne/nem/nir/nirs/nemself
ou/ous/ouself
se/hir/hirs/hirself
sie/hir/hirs/hirself
tey/tem/ter/ters/temself
ve/ver/vis/verself
xe/hir/hirs/hirself

xe/xir/xirs/xirself
ze/zem/zir/zirs/zirself [5]
co/cos/coself
fae/faer/faers/faerself
he/him/his/himself
it/it’s/its/itself
kit/kits/kitself
she/her/hers/herself
they/them/their/theirs/themself
xe/xem/xyr/xyrs/xemself

ze/hir/hirs/hirself
zie/zir/zirs/zirself


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SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS
A sexual orientation, or sexuality, is a person’s sexual identity in relation to what genders (or lack thereof) they are sexually attracted to. Here is a list of sexual orientations and related terms:
ace spectrum– an umbrella for anyone who lacks sexual attraction in any way
allosexual– a person who experiences sexual attraction (not an asexual person)
androsexual/androphilic– a person who is only sexually attracted to males or masculinity
antisexual– a person who experiences a general dislike of sex or sexual activity (not to be confused with asexual)
asexual/ace– a person who does not experience sexual attraction
autochorissexual– a person who experiences sexual attraction, but has no desire to be a participant in any sexual activities [6]
bisexual– a person who experiences sexual attraction to two or more genders, including the gender that they identify as
cishet– a person who is cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic
cupiosexual– a person who desires a sexual relationship despite not feeling sexual attraction
demisexual– a person who only experiences sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond is formed
graysexual/gray-asexual/grace– a person who very rarely experiences sexual attraction
gynesexual/gynephilic– a person who is only sexually attracted to females or femininity
heterosexual– a person who is sexually attracted to the opposite gender
homosexual– a person who is sexually attracted to the same gender as themselves
kalossexual– a person who desires a sexual relationship, but does not feel sexual attraction towards anyone in particular [7]
LGBTQA+– lesbian, gay/genderqueer, bisexual/bigender, trans*/transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, agender/asexual/aromantic plus all of the other non-cishet identities
lithsexual– a person who experiences sexual attraction but does not want it to be reciprocated and has no desire to act upon this attraction [8]
pansexual– a person who is sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender/is attracted to every/all genders
polysexual-a person who is sexually attracted to (at least two/more than two) genders, but not all genders
queer– an unspecific way to label one’s non-heterosexual orientation OR an umbrella term for non-heterosexual orientations [9]
quoisexual– a person who finds it difficult to distinguish their sexual feelings
sapiosexual– a person who is sexually or spiritually attracted to intelligence
skoliosexual– a person who is only sexually attracted to non-binary and transgender people (not cisgender people) [10]

*Note: Gender and sexuality have no correlation (they are not related in any way).


Asexuality/Graysexuality Pride Flag
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Autochorissexuality Pride Flag
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Bisexuality Pride Flag
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Demisexuality Pride Flag
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Homosexuality/LGBTQA+/Queer Pride Flag
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Pansexuality Pride Flag
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Polysexuality Pride Flag
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ROMANTIC ATTRACTION
Romantic attraction is a person’s romantic identity in relation to what genders (or lack thereof) they are romantically attracted to. Romantic attraction is different from sexual attraction. Even though romantic and sexual attractions are almost always the same; they do not have a specific correlation. This goes for romantic attraction and gender as well, there is no direct correlation. *Note: Many of these upcoming definitions will be similar to their sexual orientation equivalent, but I wanted to make it very clear that they are separate things. Here is a list of romantic orientations and related terms:
alloromantic– a person who experiences romantic attraction (not an aromantic person)
androromantic– a person who is only romantically attracted to males
antiromantic– a person who experiences a general dislike of romance and romantic activity (not to be confused with aromantic)
aro spectrum– an umbrella for anyone who lacks romantic attraction in any way
aromantic/aro– a person who does not experience romantic attraction
autochorisromantic– a person who feels romantic attraction, but has no desire to participate in any romantic acts
biromantic– a person who experiences romantic attraction to two more genders, including the gender that they identify as
cupioromantic– a person who desires a romantic relationship despite not feeling romantic attraction
demiromantic– a person who only experiences romantic attraction after a strong emotional bond is formed
grayromantic/gray-aromantic– a person who very rarely experiences romantic attraction
gyneromantic– a person who is only romantically attracted to females
heteroromantic– a person who is romantically attracted to the opposite gender
homoromantic– a person who is romantically attracted to the same gender as themselves
kalosromantic– a person who desires a romantic relationship, but does not feel romantic attraction to anyone in particular
lithromantic– a person who experiences romantic attraction but does not want it to be reciprocated and has no desire to act upon this attraction
panromantic– a person who is romantically attracted to people regardless of their gender/is romantically attracted to every/all genders
polyamory– a person who sometimes has consensual romantic or sexual relationships with multiple people at a time
polyromantic– a person who is romantically attracted to (at least two/more than two) genders, but not all genders
quoiromantic– a person who finds it difficult to distinguish romantic feelings from friendship
sapioromantic– a person who is romantically or spiritually attracted to intelligence
skolioromantic–  a person who is only romantically attracted to non-binary and transgender people (not cisgender people)

Aromantic Pride Flag
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Biromantic Pride Flag
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Polyamory Pride Flag
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Finally, here is a video that summarizes all of the above and more.

If there are any questions regarding any of the above, or you have a gender, orientation, or pronoun you want me to add to the list, please let me know! Thank you.

Sources:
[1] Casper. “Genderflux Information and Resources.” Hella Rad. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 June 2015. <http://crushingthebinary.tumblr.com/genderflux>.
[2] “Bear without a Care.” Bear without a Care. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://kanayapapayas.tumblr.com/post/74436233946/heres-the-gender-section-of-the-posters-my-gsa>.
[3] Herbenick, Debby, and Aleta Baldwin. “What Each of Facebook’s 51 New Gender Options Mean.” The Daily Beast. Newsweek/Daily Beast, 15 Feb. 2014. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/02/15/the-complete-glossary-of-facebook-s-51-gender-options.html>.
[4] Ugwu, Reggie. “10 Questions It’s Never OK To Ask A Transgender Person.” BuzzFeed. Buzzfeed, Inc, 19 Sept. 2014. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://www.buzzfeed.com/reggieugwu/which-bathroom-do-you-use#.fxAjj8Bx9>.
[5] “Comprehensive List of Pronouns.” I Am Thirsty, Mortals. N.p., 23 Apr. 2015. Web. 31 May 2015. <http://synasthesiac.tumblr.com/post/117161601867/comprehensive-list-of-pronouns>.
[6] “A Glossary of Asexual and Aromantic-Related Terms.” Asexuals Anonymous,. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://asexualsanonymous.tumblr.com/glossary>.
[7] “Dear Non-Ace People…” – Acelyssie: Kalossexual: Desiring a Sexual… 5 June 2014. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://dearnonacepeople.tumblr.com/post/87966101136/acelyssie-kalossexual-desiring-a-sexual>.
[8] “Glossary.” Asexuality Archive. WordPress, 22 Apr. 2012. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://www.asexualityarchive.com/glossary/>.
[9]  “Saut Dans Le Vide.” Saut Dans Le Vide. Web. 18 Apr. 2015. <http://wirrows.co.vu/post/100285847121/hyourinmaruice-kanayapapayas-heres-the>.
[10] “Comprehensive List of LGBTQ+ Term Definitions.” Its Pronounced Metrosexual. Sam Killerman, n.d. Web. 31 May 2015. <http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/>.

 


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